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09 August 2015 @ 10:45 am
Expectation, most of the time, leads to disappointments..  
This is probably a fact and I've known this for a long time and I've experienced it over and over... Still... I just can't help myself. How can I lower my expectation or don't expect at all?

When I was in college, I had a group of friends, which always surprise each other on their birthdays. Unfortunately for me, my birthday always fall on the exam week. ALWAYS! 4 years in college and 4 birthdays during Hell Week. Most of the surprises for the other members of the group consist of birthday gifts, while I always, ALWAYS receive food as a gift. It's funny because they know I live in a dormitory and I don't have fridge in my room. And one time I received whole cake as a gift, WHERE WOULD I STORE THAT? So I ended up sharing them to my classmates.  In this scenario, maybe because I already expect them to give me something, so I am disappointed with the things they are giving me? -_-

Aside from them, I have dorm mates whose rooms are just right next to mine. I became close to them when i was in 3rd year but they don't really know my birthday, I just told them that Heechul's accident happened on my birthday. That's the only time I mentioned my birthday which was a few months before my day... .. Lo and behold, the night of my birthday, they had a surprise for me, a bouquet of flowers, a picture of Kim Heechul's face pasted in a meter stick and my favorite dessert in the nearest restaurant in our dorm. I was so surprised that I even cried.. In this situation, maybe because I wasn't expecting anything from them since I am aware that they don't know my birthday or at least won't remember what I told them few months ago....

And now, I was expecting some friends to at least greet me. I'm not even expecting any surprises since I live nowhere near them, but I was expecting some greetings... I know I can't expect anyone to care and to remember my day, but I am really disappointmented.

I hide my birthday in all accounts I have in the internet, one of the reasons is because I don't want to comment "Thanks" to every HBD in my wall... But maybe the primary reason is because I don't want to expect something from anyone, at least they can have an "oops, sorry I forgot" excuse.. I did this to primarily lower my expectations. But for some reasons, I expect someone to greet me. I'm having trouble lowering my expectations.... How could I possibly lower it? -_- Disappointment is such a bitch. Lol. And I am so petty. Lol. -_-

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nadzsanz: pic#125280138nadzsanz on August 10th, 2015 05:14 am (UTC)
Happy Birthday!
Or belated one?

Seriously dont know your birthday or i am? :0
im a forget person so pardon me.

I had mine in 19th birthday? Around that age, they planned to suprise me but second before i can guess cause i see camera xD
that the only one and the best birthday i have. They were my room and my neighbor mate.

Then there were celebration for me and other friend. by my classmate in college.

College day is the best for me, i didnt get any celebration before that. Except my highschool friend gave me box pencil, cause mine seriously need to change. Not that i cant afford but i just like it.Huhu

In your case here, dont think too much. They must be busy, or doesnt have internet or phone. Just It really great you have friend around unlike me. Stay pretty and be happy.

Still it great when people remember our birthday ne...
renchan27renchan27 on August 10th, 2015 09:43 pm (UTC)
First off: Happy Belated Birthday!

Second... Why don't you just tell them? About the food matter? You can't stop expecting unless you've had that since you were small (like in my case). But try to expect as little as possible. If they're your friends though you might want to tell them that the food isn't really a good idea. It hurts to say this but if they don't listen... Then they're not really worth your time (I don't know you personally so I'm going general here.)

As for the difference between one gift to the other, it lies in the details. They were aware of the details of what you said and that made you happy and that's totally legitimate.

Not to share your birthday is your own choice. Let it be because you don't want to say thanks or your afraid that the one person you're expecting to say happy birthday won't say it compared to someone else.